I talked to my friend Elvis tonight in preparation for my date on Saturday with Nicole. I told him how I had been overdoing the negging. He gave me some good advice.
He said, first of all stop with the negging. Enough with putting her down. You have done that already and it has served its purpose. Now, instead of putting her down, raise yourself up. Flirt in a sexy way by talking highly about yourself.
And then I was reading Roissy, and saw this:
“If you beat me at Mario Kart Wii, I might let you make out with me.”
Pure brilliance.
God damn.
“Guys fall in love through their eyes. Girls through their ears.”
I know this is an expression in Spanish. Not sure if it is one in English.
But that line,
“If you beat me at Mario Kart Wii, I might let you make out with me.”
is so $!@## good, now I know exactly what that expression truly means.
Still in awe.
You speak Spanish?
Si, nena.
He’s got a point, but don’t overcompensate either. Remember that everything has been over messages so far, which proves nothing. You have to back up your attitude with how you act in real life or she’ll know in 5 minutes you’re a phony.
Drop some subtle negs and make her qualify herself to you. Do not brag about your accomplishments or make yourself look better, simply make her prove herself. Keep your answers and information that would make you look good short and to the point. She will wonder why you aren’t bragging and trying to make yourself look good and try harder.
That’s all if she doesn’t flake. Unless she confirms sooner, don’t send anything until you’re ready to leave. Before you leave, send a message saying you’re on your way. If you give her any time she’ll flake. Oh and most important: SHOW UP LATE!
Hey, I speak Spanish too: Yo quiero Taco Bell!
De donde eres?
From the land of the rising sun.
Let me guess. You are half Mexican, half white.
Show up late is huge. Thanks for reminding me.
Basically, everything my mother taught me is wrong.
Polite. No.
Considerate. No.
Punctual. No.
That was just offensive.
Try again.
Pick a car first. If you guess right, I might let you make out with me.
Did you hit your head today?
Pick. A. Car.
Log on wheels.
Game:
Turning nice-guys with no flirting ability into assholes with no flirting ability.
Okay that was just mean, but srrrsly, too many guys are overdoing it on this negging business. I swear to god it just seems try hard.
There are other ways to be dominant I prooomise.
Shouldn’t you calibrate as to whether a girl needs negs? I mean if she acts like her shit don’t stink, or is super hot, neg is called for. But if she’s acting more or less normally, is there really a need?
That is such a genius line, I am speechless. That is just me with my insecurities up to my eyeballs. Thanks for the reminder.
For a normal pick up, you do need to calibrate, but for girls you meet online maximum negging is required. Calibrating by looks or personality will lead to failure. Add 3 points to her value and neg her accordingly.
Hmm. The online expert speaks.
That is me really forgetting the basics. The more I think about it, the more surprised I am by that. Calibration, baby. Calibration is a big a concept as frame control. Controlling the situation and at the same time adapting to it on the fly as needed to achieve your goal.
Dating is warfare, baby. No, better. Dating is like aerial combat. I need to be like the Red Barron.
Wait, no. I am adding value when I have sex with a girl.
Gotta keep my concepts straight.