Escaping the friend zone

Wisdom from Rollo Tomassi on the Roissy comment section:

The medium IS the message.

I hate the term ‘Mixed Signals/Messages’. More often than not there’s nothing ‘Mixed’ being communicated and rather it’s a failure (willful or not) to read what a woman is communicating. The average guy tends to ‘get’ exactly what a woman has implied with her words, but it takes practice to read her behavior and then more practice in self-control to apply it to his own. When a girl goes from hot to cold and back again, THIS IS the message – she’s got buyers remorse, you’re not her first priority, she’s deliberating between you and what she perceives is a better prospect, you were better looking when she was drunk, etc. – the message isn’t the ‘what ifs’, the message IS her own hesitation and how her behavior manifests it. 10 dates before sex? This IS the message. Canceling dates? This IS the message.

Women with high interest levels wont confuse you. When a woman wants to fuck she’ll find a way to fuck. If she’s fluctuating between being into you and then not, put her away for a while and spin other plates. If she sorts it out for herself and pursues you, then you are still playing in your frame and you maintain the value of your attention to her. It’s when you patiently wile away your time wondering what the magic formula is that’ll bring her around, that’s when you lean over into her frame. You need her more than she needs you and she will dictate the terms of her attention.

What most guys think are ‘mixed messages’ or confusing behavior coming from a woman is simply due to their inability (for whatever reason) to make an accurate interpretation of why she’s behaving in such a manner. Usually this boils down to a guy getting so wrapped up in a girl that he’d rather make concessions for this behavior than see it for what it really is. In other words, it’s far easier to call it ‘mixed messages’ or fall back on the old chestnut of how fickle and random women are, when in fact it’s simply a rationale to keep themselves on the hook, so to speak, because they lack any real, viable, options with other women in their lives. A woman that has a high IL in a guy has no need (and less motivation) to engage in behaviors that would possibly compromise her status with him. Women of all ILs will shit test, and men will pass or fail accordingly, but a test is more easily recognizable when you have the breadth of experience that comes from reading her behaviors.

Mike adds more:

15 minutes later I get this text from her: “I’m really sorry, I’m not really up for going out, I was in a long relationship until recently. It was very nice in the cinema with you, you’re really pleasant and interesting to talk with, but I understood it only as friendship.”

Me, 30 minutes later: Cool.

Look, guys, this shit is simple. The fucking cunt it not actually sorry. Women cannot feel remorse. She is tossing out beta bait to see if she was right to keep your beta ass in friend zone.

One-word responses are best. It keeps bitches guessing. Their little minds race with trifling thoughts. It’s also insulting.

Women have said, after receiving my one-word reply to their long e-mails or texts, “That’s it?!”

Yes. That’s it. You’re only worth one word.

I’ll write long-winded shit to my guy friends – and even to beta pussies trying to better themselves on Internet forums. Men are amenable to logic and reason, and thus deserving of words.

Women, being emotional animals, will have their emotions manipulated. Fewer words are better than more. Some slut gets one word, and I’ve turned around many “friends” with one-word game.

Emotional vacancy creates a vacuum. Women and nature abhor a vacuum. Make that bitch fill it.