My dad is married to a woman who was a true beauty of her day, but not that “intellectually” smart. Really, I wonder how smart she is, period.
Valentina’s father, a very successful man, is also married to a woman who is a real looker, and also not that intellectually smart.
Two successful men making the same decision.
Reading the Roissy archives, I came across this insight from Lupo:
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When I was young and dumb, I assumed I needed to date an “intellectual equal” (a concept I now realize is fundamentally flawed). An old louche who had seen and done more than I ever will disabused me of this notion; he pointed out that for smart conversation, rely on your male friends. Pick a woman for her finer qualities, not her credentials. He was right. Still end up with the smart ones (really smart, not “Ph.D. in psychology” or “I went to law school” smart) because of the circles I move in, but for all practical purposes, IQ is irrelevant. Femininity and common sense are way more important, and they’re often anti-correlated with book learnin’.
I have a Ph.D. in physics, I write, and I prop trade for a living; as a result, I date the top 0.05% of female minds. Even very smart women; ones who also have Ph.D.’s in physics and math, they tend to lack the faculty for penetrating conversation. If I want to talk philosophy, I talk to a dude. C.S. Lewis was perfectly correct.
On the other hand, if you’re packing a big heater on the end of your neck, it is fun giving women intellectual validation. They’re all insecure about their brains, especially when they’re really hot.
Femininity and common sense anti-correlated with book learning. Why does that strike me as true?
Unfortunately, common sense isn’t that common.
But whilst you are reading roissy and welmer and filling your head with thoughts which are more on the negative than loving thoughts about women , the world rolls on.
My friend I keep going on about (the one with the quiz on match), he’s going on another date this evening. Did I tell you he had sex with three different women last week? Unfortunately, he’s finding it all a bit tiring now having sex with women he’s not emotionally connected to and wants to find someone to be with. He’s going to get fussier now, he’s started screening them on match by job (after looks of course), he doesn’t bother with teachers, social workers etc because he wants to find someone who earns ok money. He said earlier on the phone ‘what’s the point otherwise’.
I read that many intelligence(brain?) related genes are present on the X-chromosome. So the girl’s IQ is important, especially if you want a son.
But put on femininity is pointless. Women are competitors to men, and not complements; men like to imagine them so. A woman’s femininity that comes in deference to a man better than her is more ethical.
Even in all-male groups men form a hierarchy, the lower-ranked men put on a feminine display of submission. It’s not that different.
In my institute the best IQ guys won’t get as credentialed as middling IQ guys, they are lapped up by high-paying companies just after graduation and it’s the hardworking guys who have to persevere in order to keep just ahead of these guys in grades, and to apply for post graduate studies in foreign colleges.
Girls show the same status hierachy, and it’s a little scary.
You often imagine the “pretty girl” as the leader…it’s often not that the leader is attractive, though she is to some extent…after all, everyone sees the Queen Bee as a 10, when she’s probably a well-groomed 7 or 8. Or at least girls do.
But when a Queen Bee gets usurped by another Queen Bee, she’s immediately viewed as hideous by all former followers. This is true in all regards; girls with any form of power or status are viewed as more beautiful in the eyes of the girls that surround them (and possibly even guys; especially betas who want to suck up to these girls and get some). When a girl doesn’t have any more power, she’s not viewed as attractive by other girls.
Competition is natural. Feminine behavior is just something that contrasts male-typical behavior. To get a mate. To create a stable home. To live longer than men on average and raise the grandchildren.
yeah I watch gossip girl too
That Serena. She is such a golden girl.
It doesn’t matter how much she sluts it up with how many guys, all the guys declare their love to her..all the time.
In the meantime, Vanessa will give up and go back to Brooklyn and bury herself in her art. Then when she’s 30, she’ll try and date and get married to a ‘nice guy’ and guys are going to pump and dump her because surely she *must* have ridden the carousel. And she won’t know why she’s been dumped again and again and going to think it’s because of her personality (which of course as it’s Vanessa is entirely possible she is whiny, but that aside) and die at 50 in an appartment surrounded by cats..in Brooklyn.
Meanwhile Serena will be on her third husband, be mega rich and beta boy Dan will still be sending her poems. Who knows she may even marry him like Lily and Rufus. She’ll probably be shagging a gardener too.
I have no fucking idea what’s going on right now.
I was actually talking about power dynamics in my sorority.
You guys should watch “Hollywood is like high school with money.” you can find it on youtube and on alloy tv on the internet. 10 episodes, and depneding if they have recaps or not, anywhere from 6 minutes long to 10 minutes long. Very interesting stuff.
I think Jessica Szohr is really pretty.
lol, yes I gathered you were talking about your hs and college life but I couldn’t help it when namae mentioned GG 🙂
I saw a review for some new film the other day, I think it’s called You Again. In the review, they said that all Americans carry their HS experiences for the rest of their lives.
“Hollywood is like high school with money”
Isn’t life like high school with money?
Well, it also has boys.
And sometimes not so much money.
ok, maybe not a good analogy. But will check out your recommendation. Need something new to watch. Everything on television seems to be reality and I hate that. I like proper shows with proper writers and storylines.
“I think Jessica Szohr is really pretty.”
Vanessa in GG? Yes, she has got stunning colouring. So does Vanessa Williams.
haha lily that’s quite an analysis.
and here’s my vanessa in the fray:
Though I think that’s due the angle, I wonder how the GG girls will look after someone washes off the layers of make up on their faces. especially Taylor Momsen’s
I think it really does all come down to men show off and are taught to have over confidence. Whereas women are taught never show you are smarter than a man or he wont want to marry you etc… Those old cliche’s.
Men are natural peacocks, still butting heads to prove who is the better male and now they are confused because not only do they have to compete with males but females too, which scares men because they assume they are superior.
“now they are confused because not only do they have to compete with males but females too, which scares men because they assume they are superior.”
women are turning into men. it ain’t pretty.
i don’t think that is “scares” men. it does confuse them though.
like when your man comes home after a bad day at work and bursts into tears and curls up like a baby in your lap, sobbing uncontrollably? does that scare you or confuse you?
well, actually it does scare you. but not in the way of, oh i’m threatened, but as in, wtf????