thanks to reader B for emailing this excellent link and reminding me of this very important overall concept.
the roissy commenter “logic = anti-game” knows what he is talking about:
This house knows women. We know they don’t respond to logic and we don’t employ it with them. We don’t argue, we don’t explain, we don’t convince. Instead, we tease, ignore, titillate, and condescend… and then we tease some more. We do these things even when we’re not trying to game a woman, because it is the only form of inter-sex communication that is understood and appreciated by both men and women.
So go forth, and respond (if you must) to female commenters with smileys. With “Hey, doll.” With “Plz post pics of ur tits thx.” With “Also, ur vag.” And so on.
the thread is good. the roissy article is good.
Attracting Women By Exploiting Their Insecurities
life is good.
ps. taken further, logic is great for problem solving. but on a bigger scale, pure desire, relentless optimism and creativity, and irrational boldness — that is how you make things happen.
so it is not just that you shouldn’t use logic to communicate with women. you should be careful about “logic” in your everyday life. if all of us men only subscribed to logic 100 percent, none of us would wake up in the morning.
key takeaway: don’t over-rely on logic. be bold. be aggressive. you are a force of nature. connect with the infinite power of the universe.
and don’t take women too seriously. enjoy them for what they are.
your purpose is far greater than just finding a woman to love, or finding hundreds of women to bang.
for men reality clicks when all the pieces come together, we discover beauty when we sense the mechanical / mathematical rules that articulate in between the pieces. men see right / wrong & divine / evil in an external, projected scale, men map the rules, then play the game, competing, measuring against each other and external foes. if something fits the grid, its taken even if unwanted. if something doesnt fit the grid, its discarded as false. for men, the logic grid is everything, its “the world”, its what ties us all, without the grid, we would be lost in the swamps. in order to protect the grid, we kill and ignore anything that doesnt fit, we pass over a big chunk of reality.
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for women reality clicks when it feels right, where “right” means its good for her, makes feel valuable, connected, secure, resourceful, in command, special. women find beauty in small, collectible, value-enhancing pieces. for a woman beauty means harmony, and ugliness is anything that disrupts the order.
a huge number of isolated, unconnected pieces can coexist as long as they feel right individually, the strong-mechanical articulation between pieces is replaced by a softer, rounder, ”
magical” rather than logical, bond, that keeps everything together.
for women theres a double set of rules. one is their own taste, their own criteria to discern between right and wrong, and the other is the net of relationships with other women, the common sense, the “group taste”.
when something feels right, they crave for it. when something feels wrong, they pop it out it as unwanted
women can embrace a higher threshold of reality. women can circle around obstacles men cannot, women can do jumps in space. yet, they cannot map these pieces in order
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so. for a woman, men’s logic is manipulative. forcing logic into a woman means destroying the magic she has created. its like disrupting a childhood
from the woman points of view: why would you want to live in a world that doesnt feel right?
men can take all those rules and immolate on them. carry the burden, play and die for ideals. why? why would you jump in the fire to save the grid?
a woman only jumps in the fire to protect her possessions, her value: her children.
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this is one of those topics I could write forever about.
in simpler words: logic is a major turn off for women
geeks, betas, weaker men try to approach women by playing external rules, asking “what are the rules? what should I do?”
women will respond with a “just be yourself” thing, which just means, theres nothing logical about having an erection
be a magical animal, be unarticulated, make jumps in the space, be a miracle, be something that feels right, rather than one that “fits right”
if you can manage to break the boring laws of physics, and then map logically what you did so other men can follow your steps, you’ve got something
genius.
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Yohami
You really have a way of describing a perspective that makes it simple and clear.
Really appreciate your comments here and on your blog. Lots of insight.
bill
thanks bro