Doug on key game concepts

doug on fire. i think he needs a nickname too. something master. maybe american master, since he understands american girls so well. or the grand master. because he is always thinking several steps ahead.

so yeah, grand master doug. like grand master flash.

so here is the grand master on key game concepts, from the comments.

i think i need to make this a tab too. UPDATE: GM1, above.

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Here are some key game concepts you have to learn. So look out for them in your readings:

1) Overcoming approach anxiety. Pretty much you have to a) force yourself to just do it; b) have a “who cares” attitude towards rejection; c) realize in the beginning especially but always to an extent it’s a numbers game (not all girls are attracted to exactly the same things, girls are in different moods, girls are in different relationship status or dissatisfaction with what they have that night and so on). Overcoming it is easier when you have some of the tools below at least in your head, if not yet in your “muscle memory”.

2) Learning to neg. Rivelino’s set of collected links to posts describing his seduction of Crystal is quite good at explicating this, partly because he’s done a lot of reading up on game, but also partly because he’s so marveling in his descriptions of what he did about how well it worked. Also he’s very detailed. Negging is in essence playful teasing, with a greater or lesser degree of neg (put down) zing to the teasing. It’s critiquing her usually also combined with some compliment as well, in a way that doesn’t go to her core, and is fixable, or doesn’t indicate your complete non interest. Just a show me, you’re not THAT hot kind of frame. It’s about establishing psychosexual dominance over the girl in a way that she welcomes and is attracted to. The hotter, younger (well college age and up) and more in demand the girl, the more need for zing. No, scratch that, young 20s out of college working in professional jobs in the big coastal cities need the most negging of all, cause there’s the most competition for them, by guys of a wide variety of ages. College girls at least in the big state Unis usually outnumber the guys by a lot, as much as by a 3/2 ratio, and tend to only be hit on by fellow underclass guys, for various reasons. (Though a happy hunting ground for you quite possibly if one’s in your burg.)

3) Learning to DHV (demonstrate higher value) and build comfort. This is “just” (it’s not so easy for many guys) talking to her and even more listening to her (focus on emotions and personal revelations and encourage them) in a way that demonstrates both that you get her at a deep level, and that you have high value. Stories of adventures you’ve had, especially manly one, other accomplishments, and so on are gold, but not told in a boasting, try hard way. Let slip, illustrate a point with a personal anecdote of this nature, etc.

4) Learn about push pull. Basically push is 2) above, white pull is 3) above. Alternate. If she’s hot (as most entitled American girls think they are if they’re a 6 or even a 5 and above), she only wants pull after she’s felt push. Cause otherwise she’ll think you’re beneath her and far too easy. Push establishes emotional/sexual attraction, while pull establishes comfort, warm feelings, and trust. Girls need some combination of both, varying on the hotness of the girl relative to how she’s perceiving you, and to some extent on simply her own personality.

5) Learn about calibration to the particular girl. How to read her signs. How much push and how much pull. How much asshole and how much guy who gets her.

6) Realize that girls want an emotional roller coaster. Some more than others, but almost all girls more than most guys. They want drama. They want to feel they might lose you. Then that you really dig them. Or more accurately they are most sexually attracted by these things even though they consider them bad to one degree or another and want to brand them and guys good at them as morally wrong, bad guys, and so on. They are most sexually attracted when they have to chase you, but want to emotionally protect themselves and tame you, by leading you into being more beta, non dominant, which our American feminist culture schools them in doing incessantly, at home, in school, and through the entertainment media. (It also schools you to go all “yes dear”, “you’re probably right”, “ok, ok” and so on, for the peace and harmony of any relationship, which decreases her sexual attraction for you, while also making her feel more secure, and eventually bored and dissatisfied.)

7) Learn how to sexually escalate. This is how you fuck close. This is heavily about two things. Your confidant and non needy sexual intensity, and getting HER to chase you. Tease her with your kisses, which you pull back from, getting her to want to kiss you, and go for your mouth when you get close the next time. Stare intensely into her eyes. Be high energy.

It’s still always gonna be better if you’re high status, charismatic, tall, handsome and rich, than the opposite of those things, but game, or psychosexual playful dominance, matters a whole lot too. It can tip the balance. Also learning game can make you more charismatic than you previously were, especially if part of the reason for your non dominance over women was thinking that was evil. For many though learning game isn’t just a cookbook exercise. It’s also partly a belief system conversion.