Monogamy can be absolutely wonderful beyond anything a fling can do for you.
Monogamy can utterly destroy you beyond anything a fling can do for you.
It’s a bigger roll of the dice and the winning and the losing is sweeter or more painful for it.
The risk of endless flings though is that you may not ever risk enough to really win a good bankroll over the very long term. It’s a too conservative of a strategy. Kind of the emotional and familial difference between paying a mortgage and owning a house… or just renting your whole life and having a net worth of nothing come retirement.
I’ve lost my father last year. I’ve taken an extremely bold move in sticking with the writing instead of bailing and getting an additional part-time job to pay the bills. It has become utterly clear to me this last half a year that the only thing that matters is family and a tiny handful of friends that actually will do anything for you other than want to just hang out.
Marriage is a big risk. But so is not being married. You just risk differently and anyone who says they can use more than educated guesswork to choose a path is lying or in denial of the complexities of life.
It also helps to not consider it as a gamble on marriage, but on this woman in particular.
athol i bought your book and i am reading it. it is my nightly reading before i go to bed. you have a great writing style, a great “voice”, and your book is not only the perfect introduction to game for married men, it is also laugh out loud funny. i am going to do a full report when i finish it.
i think your book has unlimited potential. it deserves to be right up there with mars and venus, and obviously, it is much better than that book, because game is much more powerful than mars and venus.
we need to brainstorm how to get it out there more. how to get it more publicity.
have you considered hiring a PR agent? i don’t have much experience with this — actually, no experience — but i hear that a good PR agent can be HUGE.